Final entry for 2011??? (A RETROSPECTIVE TYPE OF THING) This year started where last year ended, but don't they all?? But what I mean is the in October of 2010 Lucy went to Poland with Ian to get her immigration status squared up, and she was still there as this year began. As we started the new year we still weren't half way through them being gone.. It's hard to imagine them being gone for that long, and right now that seems impossible of such a thing to have to endure with mom in her current condition, more about that later.. When mom asked Donald when he was planning to go over there and see them he stated he wasn't planning to go at all.. However in February he changed his mind and went over the first of April. Her status got cleared up on Valentines day of all days, she would be home in April, there would be no shortening of her stay.. When that earthquake hit in Japan in March I thought just let them get home then the world could end.. They got back home late April and soon after everything returned to normal.. Everything was normal until September 25.......................: SEPTEMBER 25: That day was a Friday and I took mom to work and went over and watched Ian as usual.. The plan was to go out to Mc.D's and pick up mom, the boo and I, and that is exactly what we did, nothing out of the ordinary there.. However this was a Friday and being Friday mom is usually the most worn out of the entire work schedule.. She started doing four days a week when asked to try it and I think she was torn between telling him she tried and wanted to go back to the three day week but was of the frame of mind that she developed when she was there before of the place just doesn't run right without her.. So she comes out and hops in the car and we go get ice cream because Ian really likes that.. We get ice cream then start to take him home and he needs to go to the store and we head to the store and get a few things.. Then we head to Ian's house and mom decides to go in for a bit.. We stay there for maybe a half an hour and when we leave she nearly falls on the front porch as we are leaving.. I catch her and assure her she won't fall.. Half an hour later at home I wasn't there to catch her this time...
I'd gone into the bathroom and heard this incredible crashing sound and scream coupled with it.. I swear that sound remains audible to this day three plus months later.. I freak out (controlled freak out) as mom was laying in the dining room gasping to breathe.. I help her up eventually and determine that going to the ER isn't what she wanted to do.. I will do only what she wants, I've tried to suggest ideas before but not been in the best light so we don't go to the ER but end up going on that Monday after both brothers say it's a good idea.. I thought it was a good idea Friday but mom acted like she wasn't that bad off.. She has a tendency to do this with me and this wasn't the first time and more than likely won't be the last..
November brought the Thanksgiving holiday and it wasn't much fun for mom, she was in pain with her back.. The PT thought it might be a compression fracture, the chiroprator didn't think so and now after just over three months we are where we were.. Seems like we went through this with her balance issue.. After seeing half a dozen specialists we finally got the definitive of her balance which is she will never get better.. He ribs might heal eventually but I think as I have for the past nearly two months and that is she has nerve damage there.. But I'm just the stooge idiot so nobody listens to me..
CHRISTMAS: The final stop on the year that was.. In lat July or early August Tabitha returned to Nebraska after her year plus long stay in the Nashville Tenn. area.. Hoping her "wanderlust" has been filled.. I envied her for trying to leave this area, it was something I would have loved to try back when I was a drummer... So Christmas, the season of the ... Well not my favorite as I've written elsewhere.. We went to Cheyenne twice and Scottsbluff twice as well then Sterling twice and finally east to the unknown Ogalalla for the off chance a smaller market and stored therein would yield an idea.. That was a big BINGO as I found almost everything there. The one thing I dislike about the holiday is the "never enough" feeling when looking for gifts and the need to fulfill that feeling of am I giving enough?? I thought last year that I should look for things through the year to give as gifts to mom but them didn't remember to.. I ended up getting her a christmas cactus and a red bird light type of thing.. Last year I got her word puzzles and thought of this the day before Christmas.. We were to have an extended family type of get together this year with Jordan being engaged to be married to a guy with three kids.. So there was an attempt to get the whole family in the dining room table but try as we might we couldn't see that happening and having everyone able to be comfortable that way..
I did write what happened Christmas day elsewhere, and a deeper look at it has yielded no new insight.. I do remember helping mom get the food to the dining room table and then getting my plate starting to get food on it.. I then got ready to sit down to eat and my chair was gone.. I thought there were enough in the two rooms but guessed I was wrong when I went to retrieve a chair in the dining room they told me it was needed, so I grabbed the stool to sit on.. Then saw there was chair not being used on the table there and just moved it.. In the meantime I have no clue what happened with my older brother but he ended up outside and his wife going out and coming back in and then mom going out.. I heard some yelling but didn't get the gist, I WAS HUNGRY.. So I ate..
So even now a fortnight later I still have no clue what happened but the next day and then today mom has made the comment that there won't be another family get together anytime soon.. Cryptic is a good way to describe that statement... I'm the family idiot, I admit that.. EVERYBODY KNOWS THAT.. And this just proved my point.. I don't know what went on that day.. I have no clue... But as I write this, it seems a fitting end to a year that has seen the family torn apart by miles and now seems to be torn apart by my stupidity...
WHAT'S 2012 GONNA HAVE IN STORE??: Well for starters, mom wants to get back to work and that might happen, I just hope she can get to where she had the confidence she had before she fell.. Tabitha has a boyfriend... Jordan is engaged to get hitched in August.. Donald threatening to leave the job he has because of the mounting incompotence there.. Lucy working at the book store not sure if she will go back to do upkeep of the memorial gardens or not.. Ian got a drum set for Christmas.. Thus begins the long road to being a drummer... FUN.. I am moms keeper sort of.. As much as I am allowed.. And Bob and Freda chug along on their new railroad line, called empty nest for sure this time...
BH
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